Monday, March 29, 2010

Priorities: How many of us have them?

As a decade long employee for a pharmacy along with my lesser stint in education, I've noticed a disturbing trend among members of my community here in New York especially young parents (I consider young parents those under 40 years old) of my ethnicity. I'm constantly in contact with young parents through my profession & recreation. I see them pick up their children from school, order medicines for them through hospitals & pharmacies, and I see them in nightclubs.
I'll give a quick example. Last summer I went to a club in the Chelsea section of New York called Suzie Wong. I went there on a Monday night after work & it was jumping. There were hoards of scantily clad, juicy, and overall sexy ladies (I use that term loosely here) in the spot who were stacked from head to toe. There was this one young man who was no older than 25 that was acting particularly wild on the dance floor. Suddenly the DJ played the record "plenty money" by Plies. This dude pulls out a knot of bills that could choke a raging bull & throws it in the air. Everybody in the spot ran after the money. Out of nowhere four bills fell right next to my left foot. I quickly stepped on it & didn't lift it until 5 minutes later when I went to the bathroom. They were all $20 bills. I was eighty dollars richer for no damn reason. lol
The following Thursday afternoon I went to a local pharmacy to buy me a case of Cranberry-Pomegrante Juice that was on sale. I see this same young man in the pharmacy with what appears to be his son & another woman (maybe it was his wife or girlfriend so I won't assume it was simply his son's mother). They were buying a box of diapers & the woman didn't have enough cash. She asked this young man for some money & duke said "I only have $5 to my name." My manner went from happy go lucky to mad as fuck in a matter of milliseconds- almost instantly. This guy threw hundreds of dollars in the air to total strangers & in a few days didn't have enough money to cover his son's bare bottom.
This is my issue with many of the young parents I see today. They have the poorest money management I have ever seen especially those of my ethnicity. I see students who come to school in shoes & apparel more expensive than mines (at times....I do have a taste for upscale clothing) without proper school supplies like notebooks, pencils, pens, paper. etc. This unfortunate 5 year old child I see often in my residence wears a nice Sean John jacket while having lips badly in need of medicated balm. What happened? As a child my parents made sure I had adequate supplies for school as well as clothing, but they wouldn't spend their last dollar on purchasing brand name clothing for us. If anything both my parents would leave that task up to me. The last decade or two, an alarming amount of parents have lost sight of what's most important to the offspring they created.......which is their well being (my opinion).
At times I've been disparaged for having this opinion about young parents namely because I'm not one & don't really know the perils of parenthood. In no way would I want to intentionally hurt this group of people who are vital to my community. As Martin Luther King said 40+ years ago "There is no great disappointment where there is no great love." Indubitably I love my people from the elders to the progeny. I only want to see my people in a better state. These days my people can't blame all their troubles on the ubiquitous yet often invisible "White man." Some of that blame needs to fall on our own backs for not PRIORITIZING CORRECTLY!
Now don't try to play me for a simpleton though. I look at television. I read the magazines. I peruse the different blogs on the internet, and I see all the advertisements for high end merchandise as I skate down the streets of New York. With all of that media hitting the young parents at once, I sincerely understand why some make decisions that show a lack of true priorities. We all want nice things for ourselves & our children. That's human nature & in theory I believe that Allah provides for his creations. I think that all people of earth would live in moderate affluence if the wealth of the world were evenly distributed. However, the reality is that the world is filled with a few "haves" & an alarming majority of "have nots." Therefore as responsible people, we should try our best to live according to our means until we see an increase in what we earn. This includes the young parents I scrutinize at times.
Until the next blog, I'll be riding sideways on my skateboard. PEACE!

4 comments:

  1. Are you serious? He threw money in the club and wonders why he only had $5.00 to his name? Shame on him. Sounds to me he was showing off and was trying to be something he was not....a fake baller. A real man would have bought diapers BEFORE he went to the club and in BULK!

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  2. He was a confused soul home girl. Instead of making sure that his baby boy had his needs met, he threw money that ended up in the hands of a dude who doesn't even have children (myself). I didn't need that money as bad as he needed it, but he was blinded by what he wanted to be instead of seeing his true reality. I see this happen all too often with a disturbing number of young parents of color here in New York & it bothers me. I would love to help them get it together.

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  3. See someone like me would've went up to them with a $20 from the club and been like. Well here a $20 you threw up in the club the other day and walked away! As one who tries to control her spending for someone to do something that foolish is just.....no words.

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  4. I was thinking about doing that Nessa, but I was envisioning his girl going ape shit once hearing that he threw money that she could've used into the putrid air of some random nightclub. I didn't want to get him into anymore trouble. lol

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